The husband and I don’t have too many major money disagreements. We each trust and respect each other’s control over our respective financial resources, and work together as a team towards common goals. (With a family, that’s most of our goals, anyways.) So I don’t think I’ve ever had a post along the lines of “she says/he says.”
That’s changing today. Because our lives have changed. He’s a full-time student, who has found out that he generally thrives in on-line courses. They fit his schedule and he can usually work ahead or catch up depending on the craziness going on in our lives. I’ve been doing this blogging/freelance writing thing, and as he’s in class and at work less, I have not been able to get the bulk of my work done when he’s not home.
That leaves us competing for computer time. Not in a mean-spirited way; we both respect the tasks the other has to complete. But it’s challenging to be home together (a rare occurrence,) and watch the other one internet away, while we’re running through all the tasks we have to get done once the other is finally off.
My solution is better time management, and/or a written schedule. His solution is getting another computer or laptop.
My solution costs nothing. His solution costs hundreds of dollars.
He doesn’t think my solution is possible. I don’t think his solution is financially justifiable.
It’s odd, because when we grew up, having even one computer in your home was such a luxury. Then having a computer with the internet was a big deal. By the time I graduated high school, it was pretty much commonplace, at least in middle-class homes.
So having two computers in one house seem ludicrous to me. It’s insane! Remember when we lived without the net? We survived! We thrived. We got bored and creative and contemplative and lived without our contacts constantly connected to our hips. Children grew up learning to talk to people rather than texting or emailing, and books were displayed on pages, not screens.
But our world has changed. His schooling is possible because of technology. My writing is possible because of technology. And both are becoming a necessary part of our lives. I’m not sure that’s the best thing for us as human beings, but it is the reality we live in, and mostly enjoy.
I see his point. I’ve come up with a compromise to wait until the end of summer when our cash flow is a little better. It’s a compromise he hasn’t concretely agreed to.
So I’m posing this question to you, readers: should we get another computer, or is the concept overly indulgent? Do you have any creative solutions that would solve our problems without forking out the cold, hard cash? If you and your partner both work virtually, do you have two computers to allow you to get your work done?
First world problems, first world problems. This one is one I’m very aware is a luxury to have.