Selena Gomez and Entitlement

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I dodged it as long as I could.  I tried to keep my kids from ever discovering Barney.  It was a show I enjoyed as a small child, but one I haven’t been able to stand ever since.  But it happened.  It was discovered.  The first episode we watched I thought, “Hey, that kind of looks like Selena Gomez!” It turns out it was.  Apparently she was on regularly after my Barney-viewing days had ended.  I know nothing about her except that she doesn’t like talking about Justin Bieber.  And now, that she was on Barney.

In the very first skit we watched, Selena Gomez acted out the part of the fisherman’s wife in their rendition of the old Grimm’s fairytale.  I couldn’t find the Barney version on Youtube, so here’s essentially the same thing.  Only the Barney version had Selena’s character cheerfully learning her lesson at the end:

This got me to thinking.  Obviously the wife is a greedy soul.  We don’t want to emulate or be like her.  This seems very black and white when we’re kids.  People who are happy with what they have are the best kinds of people, while the people who are always wanting more are demonized for good reason.

But let’s be real here.  How many of us grew up to be like the fisherman’s wife?  Getting angry at society or life or other people for holding us back, despite how hard we were working?  Despite what we deserved?  Despite the fact that if we looked hard enough, we would have realized we already had a castle?

And at what point did that happen?  Does all the planning and preparing that culturally starts happening in our mid to late twenties turn us into greedy jerk faces?  Or does it happen when we’re younger?  When we’re teens?  And we start comparing our have nots to others haves with the most intensity we will throughout our entire lives?

I need to come clean; there are moments I find myself acting like the fisherman’s wife.  There are times I am not grateful.  Where I want more.  Where I forget to explore the cavernous rooms of my metaphorical castle.  Where I realize I need to work less, because I already don’t allot enough time to everything I’m lucky enough to have.

Something else I need to come clean about?  I’m falling back in love with Barney.  It’s amazing how kids will do that to you.

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6 thoughts on “Selena Gomez and Entitlement

  1. Tonya@Budget and the Beach

    I was just watching an interview with a kid….A KID who only had one leg and he said, wisely, that we seemed to be focuses on all the things we don’t have instead of what we do have. Of course I cried…because it’s true a lot of the time.

  2. Hayley @ Disease Called Debt

    I too am sometimes guilty of being like this, of not being satisfied, wanting more and not fully appreciating the treasures I have. Yet, without those things that I hold dear to me, my life would surely be miserable. It’s good to strip things back and reflect on the things really do matter. Thank you for this reality check Femme!

  3. fnsfridaynightshenanigans

    I think kid shows are great for reminding us of lessons learned long ago. It is like a refresher/reset button. As adults there are so many things pulling for our attention and so many things to distract us, it is easy to forget what is really important. I’m definitely more than a little of guilty of this in the past, but I’m improving at remembering.

  4. Our Next Life

    Love this. We as a society are so quick to villainize on all sorts of things, even blatantly contradictory things like this: it’s virtuous to be content, yet we are all expected to worship the almighty dollar!

  5. Mel

    I agree – losing focus on what you do have is far too easy and I’m guilty of it all the time too. Who’d’ve thought Selena Gomez would bring that into perspective – no matter how roundabout of a way?

  6. kay ~

    Ah, Ms. Femme, I never would have pegged you as a Barney-lover! 😛 That is so endearing. 🙂 It’s always nice to strive for more, but to be happy with what you have at any given moment. I do think drive and gratitude can coexist. 🙂


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