Go with the Flow.
While being zen in all situations is probably great for keeping stress levels down, here we’re talking about the kind of flow that you feel when you’re doing something really well; when you’re in the zone.
The most relatable example they used was being “in the zone” when you’re playing sports. But they also displayed farmers in Okinawa who were in their flow when they were working their fields.
You can experience “flow” at your job, while taking care of your kids, or while performing any task or skill that you’re feeling confident in. Don’t feel confident yet? KEEP PRACTICING. You’ll be surprised at how quickly you’ll get to a place where you have positive feelings towards your abilities.
How to be Happy by Participating in Your Community.
I am a huge Kurt Vonnegut fan. A common theme throughout many of his books was that the breakdown of the family, not just nuclear, but extended as well, was the cause for the breakdown in us as human beings in general. Before if you were a man and wanted to sit around and drink alcohol after a hunting expedition, you had about a ton of male relatives you could do that with from your own family and your wife’s. If women needed to vent and chat, they could do that with the other tons of women that were obligated to listen and chat in return because they were family. Social needs were satisfied at the basic level and sometimes beyond by our families.
In the world we live in today, you’re lucky if you have a nuclear family that lives all together. As kids grow up, they go to college, sometimes not in their hometown. Some take jobs in new cities. Phone calls are made. But it’s not the same. They’re somewhere new, and while they may have friends, those friends are not obligated to help out the way families are.
The movie happy, which both of these posts are based on, said essentially the same thing. Without so many gender stereotypes. People who feel connected and a part of their community are so much happier. And apparently it may even lead to living a longer a life!
Should you watch it?
Absolutely. Believe it or not, I haven’t even talked about all of it. Karoshi, which is the Japanese art of quite literally working yourself to death, was covered in great detail. And happiness CAUSED by adversity? This is a science I could really get into.
This post, which contains affiliate links, originally appeared on Femme Frugality on September 26, 2012.