3 Ways to Get Money for Down Payment

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Would not have thought of some of these! Great tips to get money for a down payment on a home. Savings and patience are key!

Guys, something amazing is happening.

Millennials are actually starting to enter the housing market.

I’m a millennial that has been trying to get in on housing market for a while. We’ve been saving. Then we looked. And we realized that we actually needed more money than we thought we did to get something we could live with. So we started saving again.

It worked out. Our kids’ educational costs are covered for a while, and hopefully we’ll have enough cash on hand to make the right purchase when we’re ready–which we’re hoping will be soon.

In the meantime, I’ve been thinking a lot about different ways to find money for a down payment and closing costs—without going to the Bank of Mom and Dad. Because let’s face it: for most of us, there is no such thing.

Cut Your Wedding Costs

The average cost of a wedding is $35,329. That number can more than double if you’re in one of our nation’s largest cities.

On both of my weddings, I spent about $32,000 less than that. One was big, and the other was decidedly small.

If you have the money to finance a $35,000 wedding, consider going the $3,000 route instead, pocketing the other $32,000 for a house. In most markets, that’s more than enough to get your foot in the door.

If you’re financing a $35,000 wedding, maybe don’t do that if you want to buy a home in the near future. It will increase your debt-to-income ratio, and make it harder to qualify for a loan on a home you’d be happy with.

I’m not saying you can’t have a beautiful day, though. Here are some wedding savings hacks that will help you pocket more cash so you and your hunny can get into your own home faster:

Pretend You’re Moving Tomorrow

When I started blogging six years ago, there was this amazing blogger named Lindy Mint who was paying off her debt by selling her old stuff. She and her husband were literally going through stacks of old DVDs and books, and finding other odds and ends around the house to sell for cash.

It worked. If memory serves, they paid off over $5,000 in debt in a very short period of time just by listing stuff on Amazon, eBay and Craigslist.

Six years later, there’s even more diversity in reselling platforms. If you want to buy a house anyway, you’re going to have to move. And moving more stuff than you have to stinks.

Pretend you’re packing up now, and start selling all that junk that you don’t need or use anymore. If you go at it like Lindy did, you may be surprised at yourself and find thousands of dollars in your bank account.

Slash Your Entertainment Budget

2017 is the best year for summer concerts in Pittsburgh that I’ve seen in at least a decade.

Initially, I was insanely tempted to go to all of them. But I ran the numbers, and that was going to get expensive quick. I put my disappointment on the shelf, and looked instead at all the amazing free things there are to do in my city. If I put the money I was going to be spending on concerts towards our down payment and closing costs, I’ll have a nice chunk of change towards our goal.

Entertainment for me doesn’t just include summer concerts, though. It also includes things like going to the movies, eating out and going out with friends. I’m a veteran to this frugal thing, so let me give you some alternatives that will help you save money while still having a great time living your life:

  • Movies: Find a drive-in in your area. They’re usually less expensive per person, host double features and some will even allow you to bring in your own food. If you want to get extra frugal, try to find a dollar theater in your region.
  • Eating Out: Cook at home. This will save you so much money. If you think you stink at cooking, make it into a challenge to see how good you can get at it. Pull up YouTube videos. Find amazing recipes on Pinterest. There’s never been a better era to learn a new skill for free.
  • Going Out With Friends: Stay in with friends. Have a game night. Play Mario Kart. Rotate as dinner hosts. If alcohol was going to be included in your outing, buy some at the liquor store (I’m so Pennsylvanian) instead of buying it at the bar. Bring it home and imbibe on a budget. Good friends are good company even when you’re just chilling in the basement.

You’ve Got This.

Saving for a huge goal that can be tens of thousands of dollars is intimidating. But you’ve got this. You’re capable. And when you put your mind to something, you’ll find creative ways to make it happen, even if you hit speed bumps along the way. When you’re ready to purchase a home, head to a financial institution who will have your back through the whole process.



*This post is in collaboration with PenFed Credit Union. The views expressed in the article are the views of the author and do not necessarily reflect the views of Pentagon Federal Credit Union. PenFed Credit Union is an Equal Housing Lender and is federally insured by the NCUA.*



6 thoughts on “3 Ways to Get Money for Down Payment

  1. Mr. JumpStart

    It’s hard to believe that wedding number is really true? I know you didn’t make it up, and got it from a reliable internet source. I’ve seen shocking estimates before other places. 35 grand is a 20% down payment on a 175,000 dollar house.
    Our wedding in 94 worked out pretty well and we spent less about $1000.
    I wonder if there are people paying off wedding debt before they can begin house down payment saving?

    1. Femme

      It is crazy. To be fair, averages can mask that a few large spenders distort the numbers. BUT, if you’re having a wedding with 100+ people, it’s really easy to top $10k. And a lot of people do.

      And there are. Wedding debt can really mess up your DTI ratio and delay other life goals like buying a house. Luckily, there are lots of ways to save and allocate that cash or credit to things that last longer than one night!

      1. RAnn

        I’ve read that one thing that has really upped the cost of the “average” wedding is that lower class people aren’t getting married as frequently; rather they just move in together. Whereas their parents had simple church weddings with punch and cake receptions in church hall, they don’t get married. People who do get married are people with money–often money they have earned themselves since they are in their early 30’s and they do a BIG bash.

        1. femmefrugality Post author

          Huh. That’s interesting. I know a lot of low-income people who have gotten married, but that’s purely anecdotal and may fly in the face of statistics. More anecdotal experience: a bunch of millennials in general live together before getting married–and then go into debt around a big wedding. I think we’re finally beginning to see a generation start to settle down after hitting a huge speed bump at the beginning of their careers.

          Definitely interested in learning more about these numbers, though. Analytics is superior to any one person’s personal experiences.

  2. Gary @ Super Saving Tips

    Saving on the wedding is a biggie. If you’re going that route, try to remember that you want to invest in the marriage, not the wedding day! There are a million ways to have a nice wedding without spending a fortune, and whether you ultimately choose to buy a house or not, your budget will be so much better off for it.

    1. femmefrugality Post author

      Amen, Gary! You don’t want to start your marriage out in financial strife over what is essentially a blow out party!


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