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6 Autistic Women Who Are Changing the World

In honor of Autism Acceptance Month, Femme Frugality is running a series of Monday articles focusing on the triumphs and challenges those diagnosed with autism face as related to their finances and careers. Today’s post is the second in the series.

These women aren't successful in spite of their autism--they're successful because of it. 6 Autisitc Women Who Are Changing the World.


Neurodiversity is a beautiful thing. When we think differently from each other, we each have the opportunity to do good in our own unique way.

Today we’ll look at six autistic women who are forging their own paths. They’re creating meaningful art. They’re creating jobs. They’re creating a better world.

Dani Bowman

At just eleven years old, Dani Bowman established an animation company called DaniMation Entertainment. Today that company is not only going strong, but also employs others on the spectrum. By recognizing and utilizing the talent in her own community, she has assembled a team that’s produced award-winning animated shorts for five consecutive years.

On top of building a successful company and tapping into the immense talent pool within the autistic community, Bowman works to develop that talent pool further by running summer camps focused on animation and empowerment.

Morénike Giwa Onaiwu

Morénike Giwa Onaiwu has a long history of working in advocacy and empowerment movements. She started her career in the nonprofit sector, and has since served in a various volunteer capacities, including positions within the Division of AIDS at NIH.

Within the autism community, she serves as the Autism and Race Committee Chair for the Autism Women’s Network. As a black woman, her voice is much needed as an advocate who can speak personally to the bias-centric hurdles autistic women of color face on a daily basis.

Jen Saunders

In 2011, Jen Saunders started an extremely successful magazine called Wild Sister. Birthed out of a trying time in Saunders’ life, the aim of the publication is to empower women to pursue their dreams rather than become victims of their circumstance.

In 2015, she received a diagnosis of Asperger’s Syndrome. These late diagnoses are becoming more and more common for adult women as we understand and identify autism not as a institutional disease, but as a sign of neurodiversity.

Women are socialized differently than men in our culture, leading some to argue that the symptoms of autism are not as visible with them. This difference in socialization and cultural expectations either creates the illusion of or is compounded by the assumed fact that the occurrence of autism is lower in females than it is in males.

As we’ve gotten better at identifying autism in women, more are being diagnosed later in life. Saunders used her diagnosis as an opportunity to reach out to women with a similar life experience and founded the Autistic Women’s Collective–a global social network for women on the spectrum and parents of daughters on the spectrum.

Kim Miller

Many of the women on this list are on a point of the spectrum where their communication isn’t necessarily limited by their autism. But just because verbal expression is not your preferred modality doesn’t mean you can’t contribute to the world in meaningful ways.

Kim Miller is a living example of that. She was non-verbal as a child, but was able to express herself through art. She would draw pictures to communicate her wants and needs to her family, and her comprehension to teachers at school.

Today she uses art as a powerful form of self-expression. She, and many others on the spectrum, are visual learners. This lends itself to pictorial processing rather than thinking in a string of sentential lexemes.

Her art, which has been featured in many different publications, portrays a full and rich interpretation of the world. She’s earning through her talents, and at the same time making the world a more beautiful and understanding place.

Currently, you can purchase works which have not had their copyright purchased by outside publishers through the Kimpressions online storefront.

Amy Gravino

In the US, we have a lot of supports for children with autism. But when it comes time to transition to adulthood, many states don’t have the proper systems in place to continue this support.

One place where this evidences itself is in the college experience. Not only do the intense and new social situations tend to be more difficult to navigate when you have autism, but the workload combined with an inclination towards completing tasks immediately rather than pacing make the entire experience extremely anxiety-inducing for those on the spectrum.

In an effort to up student retention rates in the autistic community, Amy Gravino started A.S.C.O.T. Coaching, LLC. On the spectrum herself, she is uniquely qualified to guide and support students through the transition to college life with concrete skills and true empathy.

Temple Grandin

Most readers will be familiar with Temple Grandin. Her name is known for her work in autism advocacy, and for good reason. But prior to this effort, she revolutionized slaughterhouses.

Her keen attention to detail, heightened sensory sensitivities and empathic compassion towards animals enabled her to design systems that kept cattle calmer as they were literally being led to the slaughter, and gave them kinder deaths.

Not only have her designs made our systems more humane, but they’ve also saved a ton of money in a massive industry.

Autism Empowers

All of these women are changing the world, and they’re doing it as career women and entrepreneurs.

At this point, it’s easy and common to feel stirred to a point of inspirational pity.

Let’s not do the common thing. You’ll note that every single one of these women isn’t successful in spite of her autism. They’re each successful because of it.

That’s what Autism Acceptance Month is about. It’s not about wiping out neurodiversity by finding a cure in order to eradicate the challenges of autism. Those challenges, which are real and sometimes large, do need to be addressed. But to cure autism itself would also remove many of these important contributions to society.

Rather, this month is about celebrating those differences, and recognizing that we, as a society, are better because they exist.

Muslim Women Who Make America Great

Astronauts, miracle-worker cardiologists, autism advocates and more. There really are a ton of Muslim women who make America great.

As human beings, we too often rely on stereotypes. More often than not, these stereotypes are inaccurate and inspire nasty –isms, like racism, sexism or xenophobia.

As Americans, we have a history as a melting pot. We are a land of democracy where ideas are allowed to flourish, and where new ideas, in turn, help us flourish.

At points in our history, though, we haven’t been the most welcoming melting pot. We’ve allowed those –isms to dominate and have failed to acknowledge the contributions that all make to our society regardless of where they’re from, what they look like or which god they do (or don’t) believe in.

Unfortunately, we may be living one of those times. Diversity, which has strengthened us during periods in which we were not busy fighting it, seems to be on the defensive rather than being encouraged. At certain junctures, it’s under all-out attack.

In honor of Women’s History Month, I wanted to take a minute to highlight some women who are making America great by making meaningful contributions to our society. Some were born and raised here. Some immigrated. They also happen to practice Islam, and without them, our sciences, art and culture would not be where they are today.

Hina Chaudhry's work in genetic therapy could stimulate cardiac cell regeneration.

Hina Chaudhry

Heart disease is the number one cause of death in the United States today. Hina Chaudhry, MD is working to address it in innovative ways.

In general, there are two instances when the heart needs to regenerate cells in order to repair itself: after the onset of heart disease or after a heart attack. The problem is that the human heart regenerates extremely slowly.

Chaudhry has identified a gene which could potentially help it do so at a much faster rate. Injecting this gene into the hearts of several mammals, including mice, rats and pigs, has proven wildly successful in trials. It induces cell mitosis, which is the essential part of regeneration.

Sabeeha Rehman has built social infrastructure for her community, whether it be religious or in support of those with autism.

Sabeeha Rehman

Rehman has contributed to her NYC community in numerous ways. She, along with her friends, initiated a community for Muslims on Staten Island which eventually led to the building of a mosque. It served to remove the isolation some Muslims felt in a geographical area where there was previously no official community based around the cultural norms of their religion.

She hasn’t only served the Muslim community; she’s served her community at large. When her grandson was diagnosed with autism, she quit her career as a hospital administrator to support other families going through the same thing. She established the first chapter of the National Autism Association in the area. Today it serves all five boroughs of NYC. The organization is volunteer-driven, and helps individuals with autism reach their full potential through empowerment and education.

Aishah Shahida Simmons makes films and writes to combat sexual abuse.

Aishah Shahida Simmons

Simmons is an award-winning artist who operates in the realms of words and filmography. Her honors include awards from the San Diego Women’s Film Festival and the India International Women’s Film Festival. She has served as a professor at a litany of universities, written books and edited numerous publications.

The thing that makes Simmons’ contributions great isn’t simply the quality of her work; it’s the subject matter she tackles with her talents. Her primary focus is ending both heterosexual and LGBTQ+ sexual violence when it is perpetrated against anyone—children or adults.

Her biggest claim to fame is NO! The Rape Documentary, which continues to be used as an authoritative piece of educational material even in its tenth year. Currently, she is working on #LoveWITHAccountability—an initiative that empowers Black survivors of child sexual abuse to share their stories and ideas on how to eliminate the same abuse they’ve experienced.
The Sublime Quran

Laleh Bakhtiar

Christian-American culture unconsciously accepts that there are many versions of the Bible. That book has been translated into and out of so many languages so many times that it’s inevitable that there are going to be variants. On top of that, languages have homonyms and heteronyms, leading to further variation in interpretation.

The Catholic Bible, the King James Version, the NIV.

Because this concept is so engrained and generally accepted without contemplation, the culture doesn’t always ponder the fact that there may be more than one version of other religious texts.

But it should.

Because there are.

Laleh Bakhtiar was the first American woman to translate the Quran, and her translation noted some poignantly different interpretations. Most notably, she interpreted the passage that commonly is quoted as allowing a husband to beat his wife as a punishment to instead say he should go away, cool off and then come back to address the situation.

Her interpretation, called The Sublime Quran, has been used to fight domestic violence cases in court and has also been adopted by the Prince of Jordan.

Anousheh Ansari--first female private space explorer

Anousheh Ansari

Anousheh Ansari is an engineer, a serial entrepreneur and a private researcher who just happened to do her work in outer space.

In 2006, Ansari became the first female private space explorer, and the first person of Iranian descent to ever leave orbit. Since then, she’s started a tech business and become an inspirational speaker encouraging people to follow their dreams.

Her family also originated the first XPRIZE, which gave $10 million dollars to a team of engineers who could design and build a reliable and reusable spacecraft—that was privately financed.

The team that won was not only successful, but got their technology licensed. The company that was born from the competition is today known as Virgin Galactic—a major competitor in commercial space travel.

Muslim Women Make America Great

It doesn’t matter where your family came from or what you believe in; you can make positive change in this world. When we look at others, we need to remember that they, too, have this same capacity, and, in many instances, are exercising it.

To forget this important truth would be to deny ourselves innovations, social support systems and positive cultural changes.

The next time you see someone who looks different than you, believes differently than you or has a different life perspective, remember that they, too, make America great.

Women Who Made Alberta Great

Learn about these four, strong women that made Alberta great.

I recently had the opportunity to visit our neighbors to the north. The ones in Calgary, specifically. I had an absolutely fantastic time. You know a city’s stolen your heart when the temperature hovers around zero degrees Fahrenheit during your stay and you still come home saying you loved it.

One place I loved in particular was the Glenbow Museum. I had a lot of personal epiphanies as I wandered exhibits displaying Asian, African, and Indigenous cultures. But the one I want to share with you today is that of the women of Alberta.

In almost every section of the museum I visited, there was mention of a prominent woman who made her mark on Alberta’s history. Since the country isn’t that old–they’re just turning 150 this year–we don’t have to go very far back to see the influence these women have wielded.

Charlotte Small

Charlotte Small is one of the women who made Alberta great.

Charlotte Small was a Native woman that married Canada’s great surveyor, David Thompson. If you’re American, think Lewis and Clarke only much better traveled.

Her father was Scottish, but returned to Europe when she was five, leaving Charlotte, her siblings, and their Cree mother behind. This type of abandonment was what all the cool fur traders were doing at the time.

She married at age 13, which was not uncommon in those days, but it was uncommon that when Thompson went back east to Quebec years and years and five children later, he took Charlotte with him.

Too often women are defined by the men they marry, but in this case, it may well be that Thompson was defined by his relationship with Small.

David himself relayed that without Charlotte’s influence and cultural mediation the trading business that supported his passion project of surveying wouldn’t have gotten very far. Without her survival skills in the unexplored wilderness, he would have been lost.

Mary Schaffer Warren

Mary Schaffer Warren, AKA Mountain Woman, was one of the women that made Alberta great.

Mary Schaffer Warren was actually an American Quaker from Philly, but she’d soon call Canada home. She was everything women of the time were supposed to be–polite, well-mannered, and, unfortunately, fragile to the point of poor health. So when she first saw the Albertan Rockies, she was in awe, but wasn’t in a hurry to climb them.

As time went on, that changed. She ended up bucking tradition, traveling the Rockies further and wider than any white woman ever had before. She:

  • contributed artwork and photography to botanical books.
  • served as Alberta’s unofficial tourism ambassador.
  • surveyed and named landmarks even though it was illegal for women to do so at the time.
  • successfully lobbied for Maligne Lake to be included in Jasper National Park.

She settled in Banff, which is still a town inside yet another national park.

Mary Dover

Mary Dover was one of the women who made Alberta great.

Mary Dover for sure grew up with privilege. Her maternal grandfather helped found Calgary and her dad helped found the Calgary Stampede–which is a big deal to this day.

But what she did with her privilege was way different than what Paris Hilton or any Kardashian have decided to do with theirs. She could possibly be described as a media darling in the context of her time, but over her lifetime she proved that you could be simultaneously elegant and hardcore.

An example that they used at Glenbow was that she won beauty pageants, but she also served as a stunt rider in films.

Mary Dover proved that you could be simultaneously elegant and hardcore.

When WWII broke out, the Canadian Women’s Army Corps had some bad PR going on. Everyone thought the women who joined up were no more than camp followers–essentially the groupies of the war world.

Dover signed on and changed all that. She went across the country correcting those misconceptions and recruiting women to join her. She served overseas in England, and when she came home from the war, she served as an elected official in local government on top of doing a heck of a lot of volunteer work.

Mother Mary Greene

Mother Mary Greene founded Calgary's first school and was one of the women that made Alberta great.

It’s the late 1800s. Your boss asks you if you’d be interested in leaving your home in Ireland to set up schools in the still wild west of Canada.

Do you go?

Mother Mary Greene did. She helped establish one other Albertan school before setting up Calgary’s first. She also organized Calgary’s first Roman Catholic school district which is still in operation today. In 2017, it’s the largest of its kind in the entire province.

We need to remember that as she was doing all this, she was operating in a man’s world. She had to handle relationships and hold her own at the same time with government officials, politicians and even officials of her own church in order to do what needed to be done.

Eventually she ended up in Australia, helping a nun senior to her as she aged.

All pretty intense. I’m giving this one to the fact that she spent her early informative years growing up during the potato famine. Much like the Depression forged young children into strong adults, I’m guessing that the famine helped forge Mary Greene into the woman of initiative that she was, giving her the necessary self-confidence, willingness and grit to do what needed to be done–wherever she was called.


Will a 6 Figure Salary Make You Happy or Cause More Stress?

Twenty years ago, when rapper Notorious B.I.G. famously asserted, “Mo money, Mo problems,” he spoke to our frustrations about how life can become complicated, and relationships strained, when we climb the ladder of success. Did money bring Biggie happiness?

Maybe not, but that doesn’t have to be the case for everybody. There’s a lot you can do to ensure that your pursuit of professional success isn’t a joyless, stressful experience but rather a happy one with positive outcomes. Here are a few ideas to help you get your cake and eat it, too.

Do What You Love

It’s not work if you love it, right? It might be hard to imagine for those of us stuck in cubicles all day, but there really are people out there who truly love their jobs. These lucky folks can’t wait to get up each day and start working. For some, the underlying mission of the work is what brings them back each day. For example, teachers aren’t typically paid a ton of money, but many love their profession because of the difference it makes on the lives of children.

Other folks have started their own companies, and they thrive on the responsibility and challenge of making all the key decisions. So maybe it’s time to think about what you or your company provides the world, as well as your place in the corporate hierarchy. Are you able to make an impact on others, or do you just punch the clock? Are you merely a cog in the machine, or do you turn the wheel?

Get a Life

Even if you make the big bucks, long hours at the grindstone can be unhealthy and debilitating. An improved work-life balance will help reduce stress and make you feel stronger and better prepared to deal with the inevitable trials and tribulations you face each day.

To get things turned around, start by asking your boss if you can work from home 1-2 days per week. Tell her that you’ll actually get more done because you’ll be able to translate those commute hours into productive work time. And with the wide array of video conferencing tools available today, like Zoom, Skype, WebEx, Google Hangouts, and Gotomeeting, as well as collaboration tools like Slack, InVision, Trello, and trusty old Google Docs, you’ll be just as plugged-in as ever.

After you’ve reduced or even eliminated that nasty commute, your next task is to carve out some “me time” and fill it with activities that are inspirational, fun, or simply relaxing and stress-free. Volunteering for a charity or nonprofit is one way to lift your spirits. You don’t need to be a Buddhist to agree with the Dalai Lama, who has said, “Only the development of compassion and understanding for others can bring us the tranquility and happiness we all seek.”

Alternatively, you could take up a new athletic activity, like running or tennis, or sign up for an art class at your local community college—really, you can do anything as long as it gives your mind a break from the stresses of work.

Remember, work should be a means to an end rather than an end in itself. There’s nothing wrong with working hard in order to afford a home for your family, but if you’re climbing the ladder just so you can put a fancy nameplate on your desk, you may have gone astray.

Save Money

We live in a consumer-driven society, full of advertisements and social incentives to keep up with the Joneses. But the Jones family doesn’t really exist—they’re a figment of our imagination. Blindly chasing them just puts us on a treadmill to nowhere.

The next time you’re about to buy an expensive item, ask yourself, ‘Is this a want, or is it a need? Do I really need this now, or would it be better to save the money in an interest-bearing account and use the money to help me attain my long-term goals, like attending school, buying a safer car, or putting a down-payment on that first home?’

When you start increasing your saving, you’re able to worry a tiny bit less about your next dollar. That peace-of-mind is like thermal insulation for your home: you might be able to live without it, but it’s a heck of a lot cozier inside when dollars aren’t flowing through the cracks.

Value your success

For many ambitious people, the drive to succeed is so overpowering that it blinds them to their accomplishments. After they’ve climbed one ladder, suddenly another appears that must be climbed immediately, at all costs.

There’s nothing wrong with ambition, of course, nor with wanting to be successful. But unless you take time to smell the roses, or the spray of the ocean at your beautiful home on the beach, you’ll never be able to fully appreciate your achievements. Like a shark that never stops moving, you won’t be able to relax for fear you’ll sink to the bottom.

For us humans, that’s really no way to live. So before you turn the computer back on after dinner, take a breath, reflect on your success, and give yourself a pat on the back. You’ve done great!



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Irish Sayings that Inspire Financial Wisdom

What a fun blog post! Loving these Irish sayings that inspire money smarts.

Happy St. Patrick’s Day, everyone!  Today I thought it would be fun to look at some Irish sayings, proverbs, limericks and proverbs to see if there was any financial wisdom we could glean from them.

Irish Sayings About Managing Your Household Finances

Do not take the thatch from your own roof to buy slates for another man’s house.

It’s important to be a nice person and do nice things.  But not if you don’t have yourself taken care of first.  If your house isn’t in order, you won’t be able to help least not sustainably.  No guilt if you’re working to improve the situation of you and your nuclear family.

Enough and no waste is as good as a feast.

Providing for your family doesn’t necessarily mean having lavish things.  Having enough and being grateful for it is more than enough.  And if you have extra, maybe you could go slate your neighbor’s roof or something.

Most eclectic St. Patty’s Day Parade I’ve ever been to in Raleigh, NC.

Irish Sayings About Money and Business

He that is of the opinion that money will do everything may well be suspected of doing everything for money.

What can’t money buy?  True love.  True friendship.  Respect for one’s character.  Even in the business world, it is sometimes necessary to do things simply out of the goodness of your heart  with no expectation of monetary reward.  People will like you for that.  And that may bring you more business and thus more money. People tend to dislike the profit-obsessed.

A fool and his money are easily parted.

Don’t be an idiot.  Or you won’t have any money. I could get into this on a much deeper level, but I feel like the surface meaning is pretty encompassing.

The best way to keep loyalty in a man’s heart is to keep money in his purse.

This could apply to straight up bribes.  Which is not good advice.  I feel like it could also apply to government or companies, too.  Cater to the people you want as customers or constituents. If you’re doing right by them and their personal economies, you’ll have repeat customers, or votes.

Irish Sayings About Life and Death

The keening is best if the corpse left money. 

I’ve noticed that the older a family member I talk to is, the darker their sense of humor. Irish or not. I find humor in this one, but probably because of the generation I belong to, I stifle my giggles as I feel it’s inappropriate or insensitive.

“Keening” essentially means mourning, so if someone dies, the funeral’s going to be a lot more fun if they left you a windfall.  My grandmother told me that, at least in the early 20th century, Irish-American people generally were not in coffins or funeral homes for the viewing/funeral.  There was a big party and the body of the deceased was sat in a chair.  The person who got drunk enough fastest ended up dancing with the corpse.  Creepy.

There once was a Irishman, who thinks.
Stead of spending his money, on drinks.
It was just his bad luck
He got hit by a truck 
Stead o boozein with mates, 

At first glance this is horrible, horrible advice.  Your money is never spent well on boozing.  But I think the underlying point is worth noting.  Enjoy your life.  Don’t hoard your money and forgo life’s experiences, especially friendships and the time spent with said friends.  You never know when you could go.  Then you’ll just be a corpse dancing at a party with some drunk guy who just inherited a windfall.

Irish Sayings About Grit

You’ll never plough a field by turning it over in your mind.

Love this one!  It can apply to so many areas of life, but absolutely personal finances.  You’ll never reach your goal if you just vaguely daydream about it; you have to take action.  Only then can you see your goals and dreams fulfilled.

The tiredness leaves but the profit remains.

Don’t quit just because something is hard, whether it’s training for a marathon, working for a promotion, or paying off your debt.  It will be worth it.  And it won’t be hard forever.


Favorite Irish sayings, limericks, proverbs, or blessings anyone?

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